Baby Blues

There's no doubt that babies change a couple's sex life. You might feel self-conscious about your changing body. Your partner may feel uncomfortable making love while you're pregnant. Both of you might be afraid of hurting the baby. Fluctuating hormonal levels can also severely impact your libido. Or maybe you're just exhausted from all of those 3 a.m. feedings! There is no "normal" amount of sexual desire during pregnancy; expect both partner's levels of sexual desire to rise and fall during and after pregnancy, and not necessarily at the same time. Try to spend time together being intimate and don't focus on "sex" per se. Once you and your partner have become comfortable with your new body, there's a good chance sexual desire will return. If not, try to be understanding and patient. Or try swapping a back rub for some oral sex.

It's also very common for a woman to be uninterested in sex after giving birth. Her body has just been through a rigorous workout and she's focused on nurturing her new baby, not necessarily sharing sexual treats with her partner. It's important that you and your partner talk about what you're feeling and find an alternative that will work for both of you until your desire returns: cuddling, sensual massage, kissing, hand holding, oral sex. Be sure to express yourself completely ... and don't forget to let your partner know when your libido returns.